Also---- what if u cause a eating disorder now?? Whether she shows u or not if it hurt i can gurantee it hurt her!

i know it hurt her... but she tells me she is over it.. we haven't atlked about it since the day it happened.. but i still feel bad about..

and for everyone that says tell her this .. tell her that.. NO.. the truth is best...

She wanted the truth & he gave it to her....he didnt do anything wrong!

If I was in macavely's same situation...& I didnt like the guys body type then I dont think I could bring myself to say that. I would still tell him the truth which is...."Im just not into you like that." Which is still the truth! But at least now he can walk away w/ his head up & try to find a GF w/ out feeling like he is too ugly to get one.

Anyway you guys....we still dunno what her body type is! Maybe she is too SKINNY for his taste. Why do we assume she is fat >> hehe

Women are sensitive creatures... Look at how long they take to get ready for an occasion?? Man, my dates to dances started getting ready at noon for an event that kicked off at 4:00! They are spending all that time trying to look as attractive as possible. Now take all that into consideration as you tell her she's not physically what you're looking for. Pickin' up what I'm layin' down? Im not gonna tell you what to say, but it could have been easier and less hurtful..

O M G>. people .... some of you totally missed the point of this.. but i guess its my fault for not expaling the whole story... this post was not about her feelings it was about mine... yea her feelings got her.. but turst me she got over it the next day... I felt bad cause i hurt her feelings that nite... she knows me and she love the way that i am.. i just flat out tell her how it is....

my question was if i was wrong for saying what i said cause it made me feel the way it made me feel.... if you know this girl.. and she wasn't your body type you would wish she was.. cause is would be close if not perfect if she was... thats they only thing that keeps her from being the right girl for me.... yea i'm shallow but anyone that say looks don't matter.. well stop BS's .. cause if lookes didn't matter.. we wouldn't have the gift of sight ...

this girl is so cool that she even told me go do who you want for a year... cause i'll get my body back to how it was... and then if you want me i'll be here... i can't even explain how great this girl is... but its just that one thing.. and yea its not such a major thing.. but damn i'm young... i know what i want.. and if phyiscally she doesn't have it... why settle for something i don't want..

-Jen+Dec 6, 2004 - 5:00 AM
Shallow is such a bull**** term. Anyone who is going to spend the rest of there life with someone else HAS TO BE SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TO THAT PERSON. Its just a basic law of nature, you follow it wether you like it or not. Everyones looking for that suitable mate to carry on there genetic lineage, popular culture has twisted this into some idea of romantic love and modern morals.

Anyways you can't have one without the the other, sexual and mental attraction go hand in hand, they both have to be there. I think your just to young and naive to realize that.


And I dont mean to single you out, alot of people have the same view and it drives me nuts.

Its a dificult situation, she asked you what maid her the girl of your deams, that implies that she thinks she is the girl of your dreams, witch implies that your not just friends but together. meaning she basicly flat out told you she liked you and though you where more then friends.

Its a dificult situation, a question such as that has the potentioal to make or break the (thing between you) I would handle it by ansering the question with another, ask her what makes you the guy of her dreams, and let her anser it for you, you can mold your anser from hers and prevent any hart break. however this does also allow her mind to think that your "together" witch (if you dont want) has to be stoped at the same time, witch you can probibly ask what she wants out of the realation ship or something, and break the news via her response.

its hard to say that what you said was not shollow, however she wanted the truth, and that is what you gave her, what she wanted. I have to give you credit for telling the truth straight out.

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My 2 cents

Yeah why do we assume she is over waight, it could be anything.

I dont think I could ever tell a girl that there body is not my type, even if it was nothing bad, just not "my type", I cant imagine how they would feel thinking what it was that is not good, girls are critical of themself's enough to bring them to tears, adding an outside opinion could make it even worse. (not saying that, that is what happend or she would be so hartbroken, just saying my opinion on that reply in general)

Lighter note: What is this about P.I.M.P's not having feelings, dem hoes ant easy to take care of, it takes feelings, and understanding.

This post has been edited by creis: Dec 7, 2004 - 4:44 AM