Okay well here it is. I have been with this guy in a long distance relationship for a year and three months now. It's been all good between us but now I'm begining to wonder. You see I have only been able to see him once . And I traveled down there to see him. Now his car right now is going under a major engine rebuild and anyone that knows the 300zx knows it's a $$ pitt, and I have even helped pay for this. Now I don't mind this knowing how much cars are and being a car enthusist myself. But I really really miss him. I have talked to him about him coming up and told him for his birthday I will paint his car, basically he pays for the paint I don't charge any labor so on and so forth. Well at first he was like I'm gonna come up for a month in march, now it has moved to june. He seems to be putting off him coming up here and when i asked why he says because his car isn't done and he doesn't have he $$ to get the car done yet. So I told him why can't he come to see me and later i can paint his car when he has the funds. Well he keeps making excuses for why not to come up. Now I'm going down there again to fl which is like 6hrs away from him, and asked if he would come see me and he made more excuses why he can't do that. I love him to death but I feel like I keep making efforts for nothing. He seems like he can't be bothered to come see me and everytime i ask he makes and excure not to. I feel like an idiot because I feel as if I'm too blind to see what is really going on here, is it just me or does this not sound right.

This post has been edited by celicagurl152003: Mar 10, 2006 - 9:05 PM

I had this whole thing typed out but then realized only one thing matters. The fact that your here, with doubts, is the start of trouble. Go with your gut, if you smell bad news, get out.

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Agreed. Also, step back from the situation and read what you wrote. What would your opinion be if someone else had wrote that about their situation? Anyone who isn't involved in the situation who reads that knows where the situation is headed. In matters of the heart, follow your head.

Yeah, unless you both are willing to try to make it work, then yeah. And someone who doesn't want their car painted for free + paint. Sigh ... My opinion is, love makes you blind and crazy, but it's what makes us happy... Good luck

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dont wanna burst your bubble but long distance relationships RARELY work out

Straight up, I say don't mess with the guy. He almost seems like hes using you.

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I was in one for 3 years. It ended on mutual terms, but definitely not because of distance. They do work, but BOTH have to put effort into it. Obviously he is not. I know you love him, but I'd get out now before you get your heart broken even more.

i really think that if hes making excuses something is up, i mean, i would jump at the chance to see a long distance g/f, if i was anywhere within a days drive id be there even for an afternoon..


especially if youve only ever seen him once, i think hes probably losing interest. not to be mean, but you probably deserve better anyway. all girls do.

Christina love if hes not making an effort then i don't think hes worth it. Long distance relationships are very hard. Even though he doesnt have the $ or whatever he should really be making an effort to see you. just my $0.02

IMO whats a relationship w/o the physical part? I understand feelings and such but we're human, we have needs, being 2000 miles away doesnt fulfill those needs.

You paint my car and pay for the engine rebuild and I'll be your boyfriend forever. You know mine is'nt a $$ pit, it's a Celica! Hell, I even live closer to you.

But honestly, I would dump him while you are'nt out too much money. Sounds like he is'nt really interested in a relationship with you at all. Sorry.

This post has been edited by gas65: Mar 11, 2006 - 6:23 AM

Thanks for all the advice, it really helps. I had a feeling what you all are saying was the deal but i needed to hear it from someone else before I thought it was actually happening. I really love this guy but I guess you all are right if he loves me he'll find a way to come see me.