In a nutshell, i'm frustrated that i dont belive i cant trust the person i've been seeing for awhile now... The part that makes it hurt is that fact that i feel like I've found sombody who makes me a very happy person, someone who i enjoy spending my very rare free time with, moreso than anyone else in the past few years... so things start off very well, and now they have slowed down with less communication between one another, and the red flag to me is we have stopped having sex.. (its only been about a week, but thats longer than we EVER have gone)... the relationship has gone from very passionate to friendship casual, and this is what worries me... Ive asked if somthing is up, and i get the "no, why do you feel that way" response, but somehow i seem to be getting a sense that its not totally true. My question, I guess is, has anyone else been right about their instinct when their relationship seems to head in this direction? i feel like I need some reassurace one way or another right now...

Go with ur gut.

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if this was a relationship forum you would be getting flamed for searching, lol. anywho, it happens ALL THE TIME. i would say 90% of the time your right. It happened to me, and it happens to pretty much everyone.

^ i agree. if you think something is wrong, something usually is. Try to sit down and talk about it.

oh bummer.. you think you are sinking into the friend zone? i hate when that happens. u might need something new to happen in your relationship to spice it up a bit and bring it back together... but if thats the case then u will need to do it every time it seems like this

i've recently had a run in with my partner (which is a girl on the other hand) but still, the first thing to always go is the sexual things because they dont share the same feelings anymore, or are desensitized by the frequency of it. you basically just have to sit down with you're partner/bf, whatever the title is of your lover and just 1on1 figure out how to fix things, its the only way you're ever going to have a good relationship is communication + willingness.

best of luck saleeka btw i really liked your poems you put on here a year ago, i just got reminded of them. (or how*********** ago)

All I was trying to say with the post that got deleted was that sometimes an unknown physical ailment (either with you or your partner) could affect a person emotionally. If he doesn't want to stir the chocolate it might not be because he doesn't love you. There may be a physical barrier that is preventing him from expressing himself. It just might be a good idea to stick it out for a little while and see if things get better.

i wonder what my post with ******* was all about.... i think i said or however long ago...

i totally agree.....it may be that you two have finially settled down and he is more comfortable with being with you or around you with out the sex. But I totally understand where you are coming from. IMO wait it out and just see. Talk to him if it really bothers you and he should understand. I wouldn't however jump straight to conclusions.

I wouldn't just sit and wait it out if I were you... Talking about it is the best solution, and I'd do it sooner rather than later.