ok well this meet is in more than a mnth...so ill talk to her tonight again and explain more...and if she takes it good and she understands i need my time and everything i wanna propse to her, if shes guna be abitch to me, then i eont...you know what i mean???
pretty much if she finalyl comes to her sences..then i will.... i wthink she will, theres plenty of time for her to think things over

dude i been in your shoes...ask forester..mine called me when i was workin on his car took me 2 hours to get her off the fone

but honestly she's controlling and thats not straight at all its not fair to you and she needs to learn that its not going to work that way..i've been in your same spot with a relationship of several years..needless to say i broke up with her cause of insecurity/control issues and a few others...you both need to understand eachothers sides and take a break learn not to be so dependant on eachother....being stuck to the hip will only lead you downhill...

good luck hope you work things out

sound like my previous relationship. only i was in almost the same situation as you and im the girl lol

we were together 3 years, i just broke up with him in the beginning of may. it was three years of me trying to make him happy and thinking i was just as happy. i finally realized i wasnt happy because i wasnt doing anything for myself anymore. i was only 16 when we started going out and he was 17 and we were so sure we'd get married for the longest time (he still says he would if i wanted to). we also spent everyday together and when id say i was going out with 'just the girls' hed get all offended and upset so i didnt anymore and my friends were pissed off to say the least. im just glad they understood and were there for me when we broke up.

i was always saying to myself when i felt unhappy "why am i going to break up with him after soo long? id just be looking for what we already have" meaning the comfort and history of the relationship. after breaking up with him and finally doing things for myself, ive been happier than i have in years. its a little scary when your so sure of something for so long then you start having doubts...you may disagree with me but i just think before you go buy a ring you need to step back and think about everything long and hard

i have loads more that i can say but i wont bore everyone with my story lol
but if you want to talk to me on aim your welcome to, i cant tell you what decisions to make but i can offer my experience and maybe it'll be of some help

take it from this pimp...do what u gotta do but PLEASE edit the part where u calld her a beeyotch! that will DEFINATELY get ugly....im in a predicament too...girl wants to go with me to nopi cuz its in atlanta, the same place where i shagged this model chick last weekend... dont worry...you will choose the right thing...

any girls in here have any advice as in what they would wanna hearfrom me??
i called her and im talking ot her tonight about it in person for the first time, and i dont wanna screw up =\

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I only need to say one thing "Trust". She only wants to go with you as she does not trust you. Your saying that you love her and you don't want to lose her.
If there is not trust in a relationship, you have to come to terms with there is no relationship. A relationship is built on trust.
Friends are forever, partners can come and go.
I learn't this from my last relationship.
She needs to trust you mate, there's nothing else to it.

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So your going to decide proposing to her or not, depending on how she takes this situation? Idk man, i mean, if you want to marry someone, then you want to marry them no matter what. But i mean, if your going to base this engagement off her being a bitch this one time, then i think you need to do some more thinking of what you really want. Engagement isn't something you should take lightly. If you really want to propose to her, then thats your choice, cuz i don't even know you haha, so i can't tell you how to run your life, all i can do is be happy for you . But just from the what it looks like from the outside, it looks like you two aren't ready for that kind of commitment. Seems to me like your taking engagement as a temporary fix, or a "reward" for her letting you go to this meet alone.

well i know for sure oe day i will propse...but i reallt liek this oppertunity...if shes being lie this then it just ruins is, butif shes fine with everything then its the poerfect oppertunity...
o well ill talk to her tonight and see how everything goes...
i really think shes just freaking out cuz she doesnt wanna be away from me that long... an di think after i talk to her she will be fine, BUT only time will tell...ill see in a few minutes cuz i gotta leave now, be back later =)

ok man goodluck with that, and i don't mean to be a douche or anything, but i think you posted this in the wrong place. I think it should be under the "Off Topic" category haha

i agree...but i didnt see there was a off topic thing til ater i posted it...so sorry eeveryone, im still kinda new here =\

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man i feel you i had an ex like that but i got it worse she made me choose between her and my family and friends in the end we couldnt work it out since it was going way one sided and her insecurity really made things really difficult i loved her alot and we went out for almost 3 yrs but man that was freaking hard so we ended up breaking up which i thought was a good thing in the end since we loved each other but made each other misserable you really have to talk with her but if she was anything like my ex shed take it the wrong way... best thing you can do is bring her and one of her friends that way you can have more time with your boys. i learned my lesson i stay away from high emo girls as much as i can and when i ever go out with someone i wont spoil them

Yea so me and her talked and shes really scared of being away from me ...i promised her i will spen every second she wants with her b4 i leave.... and i will bring her back a souvinere from cali....and shes been wanting to go to disney lworls so i promised to take her when i get back everything is set....she took it amazingly, i was so proud of her and how she listed to me and saw my side of it. thats my girl ! =) sooooo i decided that i do wanna propose to her. she impressed me so much tonight and showed me she really can be independent if she needs to and be understanding and supportive of me...soooo i decided this is how its gunne go down:

my friend Jayna is her best friend...Jayna is gunna plan a whole day out with Celi 2 days b4 im supposed to coem home... so celi wont make any other plans,.,,, then just when jayna gts to her house i will show up....having tons and tons of pink roses in my car fo her (she loves pink roses) then i will tell her were going for a lil drive and take her to disnney world....spend a day there with her and she will think thats it, will be extremely happy with just all that and ill make it like the days over im taking her home...then the next part im not sure when or where to do this but i will tell her i ave one more surprise and give her a fake pink rose with the ring attached inside the bud of it.... and tell her i willlove her untill that rose dies...and il tell her to smell it or sumtin and she will she the ring and ill ask her to marry me........ whewwww..... how does that sound???? haha i think she will love it
i just dont knwo when or were to give her the fake rose =\ any suggestions?

oh snapz brotha! dayum mangggg....that sounds like a fairy tale, lol....sh!t, i dont know man....getting married and sh!t, that sh!ts a lot of responsibility, i hope you know what you're doing and getting into, best of luck bro, keep us updated

This post has been edited by pure_dx: Jul 19, 2006 - 12:29 AM

soooounds fun. goodluck with that, and i hope everything works out for ya man. haha something like that would never work for me haha. My plans always find a way to turn out opposite of what i exspected. haha

rhanks for the luck lol and masked man, damn sorry dude haha ehhh thats how things usually are for me but i will make this work lol

maybe its time to tell her you have a myspace. starting a marriage with secrets is a no no lol

Well I'm glad that she was able to take everything maturely, and you seem to have a good head on your shoulders...I wish you guys all the luck...

Find somewhere scenic and isolated for the proposal, somewhere that you can visit again later in life to remember it.

And, yeah, make sure that this isn't a one-time thing with her being ok with you going away to enjoy the other love of your life; at least mention that you want a myspace just for car-talk purposes...if you want to get married then she should trust you enough to let you be your own man.