I know most of the 6gc members are men,
well, i wanted to ask you,
there is this girl i like, and she likes me too, but for some reasons we can't still be together..
the question is,
would you guys let her dance freak with your friends?
even if you are not boyfriend to her?
what about the ones that are in a relationship, would you let her?

i am asking cuz it really sucked for me, and i really want to tell her about that it make me really mad
going to the club and seen her dancing with me and two of my friend freak,.......
need opinions!!

my only advice;

can't live with the can't live without them

nah, why can't you be with her? are you to drop nuts to say something?
Just tell her but obversely don't yell or anything like that.

After being in a relationship for well over 4 years they do like to know how you feel. (honestly thats whats we fight about cos i dont tell her crap).

whats this "freak" is it like dirty dancing? she might be trying to get a reaction out of you to test how much you do like her.

i dont understand,,,
u want me to tell her the way i felt, but not the way i want to say it?

she know i like her, and she likes me,, sorry that i didnt point it that out clearly..
o yeah and it was dirty dancing..

This post has been edited by joehernandez: Aug 18, 2008 - 4:41 AM

she's trying to make you jealous. all girls do that to make you want them more

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ok but what would you do about it?

Oh ok...sounds like she is playing with ya. They do that....im sure not all girls do but yea a lot do.

Actually honestly I wouldn't have a clue what to do.
It sounds like its very complicated. My best guess would be to tell her.

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i really dont think she is like that,
it would be really f***ed up,,,,,,,,,
i guess thats the best thing to do

lol

a) you arn't dating so you can't tell her what to do so deal with it
b) even if you were dating, good luck trying to tell her what to do
c) I let my last GF dance with my friends its not a big deal.

Dude, If you want my advice, I'll tell you what not to do. (because as for what to do, I have yet to figure it out)

if you catch her in a hot-tub with one of your best friends, DO NOT jump the fence and try to drown him. She'll end up taking his side and get inbetween you and him ready to box with you
DO NOT be an over obsessive psychopathic stalker. It never leads to anything good.
DO NOT go out with your own friends and get drunk when she says never wants to see you again, as she will drive around all night looking for you and run up on your a- at the concert and start a fist fight.
DO NOT do anything
DO NOT do nothing
DO NOT become perfect and do whatever she wants
DO NOT become an ass and do everthing she dosn't want.
when she tells you to go get a new chick and maybe she'd be jealous, DO NOT assume that dating a lesbian (who has the same motives as you, but with her girlfriend) is going to work. Even though it's the only way to avoid future problems by NOT having slept with the person, as it's impossible. It dont work for some reason

I believe there is some whay to do that whole "win her back" thing, But I just dont know how to do it. W/E; in the end, all i know is that their are more chicks out there that are almost as good....Almost

...Damn, i'm sad now...

>It's that freaking, "rub your butt and boobs all over my happy place" kind of dancing. People are (supposedly) known "Accomplish their goals" right there on the dance floor from time to time. (unfortunately i wouldn't know as i don't know how to grind like that, nor do i dance much at all anymore ) Raver not a Rapper

This post has been edited by D-Man: Aug 18, 2008 - 8:28 AM

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Either "A" - yes she is like that [And never put anything past a woman - this is pretty mild compared to some things I've seen women do to make a man jealous or like them more - they are ALL pretty fcuked up you know] or "B" she has no interest in you. Not a problem either way - just try to figure out which and deal appropriately

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This post will haunt me for the rest of my life.


My advice - You are already too hung up on this girl to have a successful relationship [Unless you prefer being submissive and then I can see it working - maybe] and you are not even dating yet. Get the hell away. It's never healthy to be that hung up on a chick. Go out and find one who is that hung up YOU, let her massage your wounded ego and get your needs taken care of - you'll soon forget all about this other one.

This post has been edited by DEATH: Aug 18, 2008 - 9:00 AM

^ yeah that's what i did. Made me feel alot better. Then when i felt better, i was fine to go and "browse the candy isle" untill i found something worth keeping

haha D-man your first post made me lol

That's messed up man, she knows you're into her and she still wants to freak with your bros in front of your face? Hmm, does your boys know about your situation? Maybe they'd respect that and leave her off limits.

Bros before hoes, right? (my apologies to any ladies out there who maybe offended by this expression).


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>The sad thing is, NOT REALLY. I've had my family turn on my a- durring hard times like this; Hopefuly your people are better than mine.

But what can i say, I love me some crazy / psychotic women. Apparently my bad taste is in friends. and if your boys are going to go along with it in your face at the clubs, than they'll do MUCH more when you arn't looking. I'm sorry to say. Not trying to hurt your feelings or anything, Or piss you off, But (in MY personal experience, People really are that dirty )

I wish ya the best. G/L

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yeah,, thats the big deal!
i think she sill be mad and will tell me the same thing!
"we are not dating"......................................


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wooow you really got me thinking right here!

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Ok heres the thing,,,,,
she is my boss!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
she is the assistant manager and i am the third key!
i think that changed the story a little bit hehehehehe

OK well then you really don't have any reason trying to date her. Relationships with coworkers are bad news man - move on. Girls are never worth this much worry. They are easy to find and easy to leave behind man.
you seem like too nice a guy to worry about any one female.

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Ownage right there bud.

No Matt, that is his problem, he's not a total testosterone driven ass like some guys i know

J/K w/ ya

But for real, that'll be the hardest part; but ultimately the wisest decision. And i have to agree with not having relations with co-workers. Seriously, even working in a quizno's, there are security cameras, and a pervert for a boss who makes copys of the tape to show his other store at the christmas party when you're supposed to be dating a chick there, but then the.... nevermind...


EDIT: Matt, that's the quizno's by your house next to the walmart shoping center. Chris Johnson is the owner, and I was the assistant of that one and the one on 34th near that CONS and GoodWill. There was a Danielle Ramey at one store, then a Kristina Lang at another. I hope you like your mayo

This post has been edited by D-Man: Aug 18, 2008 - 11:50 AM

I don't eat mayo - don't trust it plus it's got to be the nastiest food substance on the planet [Well maybe].

No but I'm serious here - no girl is worth him being so upset. I've been fcuked with by the best in the business and not one of those females was worth the problems. Just keep looking till you find someone who likes you outright - not one you have to get to like you. And even then keep you're eye out and your heart hardened. They can't hurt you with what you were already prepared for.

who cares about girl friends!!!

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i hate to admit it, but it's Definitely the best dating advice i've ever heard.

And the whole co-workers thing really never works in one way or another. (my sideline story is only made to make you laugh at my own stupidity, lol) My only way of being serious is by making jokes. Sorry. Life is too short to waste being serious all the time. It's also too short to be fishing in a one fish pond, go cast out into the sea my friend.

EDIT: Mayo is bad, and so is jail bait.

This post has been edited by D-Man: Aug 18, 2008 - 12:03 PM

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no hehehe i am not a testosterone driven ass guy,
i think i have gotten to the point were you want to try starting the big thing,
also there is no cameras on our store hehehe

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you know its weird,,
she just called me and told me, " i love you"
and i said oh ok,,,, and she is like, " why is that reaction"
you usually tell me "i love you too," she said..........

uh okay... I've figured out this much so far: (i'm not being sexist here, this is just General Peoples Thoughts on the sexes, its a fairly accurate stereotype, but a stereotype none-the-less; nobody take offense here.)

Chicks are horribly emotional creatures. They have that whole "love & bond" thing for all kinds of stuff. Just loving and motherly by instinctive nature i suppose (idfk exactly why, but it's generally true) And even when a chick wants to let go, they have that whole "love & bond" going for them and makes them say things like that, because they don't wanna be a total ass like us guys (usually) tending to be, or at least we come off that way.

Sometimes chicks will just say things like that to spare our feelings (i suppose) because when they don't Totally hate us, They don't want us to feel downed. Because chicks get downed, depressed, or emotionally offset so much more often then us guys; they don't want to pass of the hurt that we're usually responsible for dishing out.

and i don't mean that all of us guys are asses, but if my gal ask me what outfit i like better, and i say i don't f-ing care; then she'll be [in some manor] upset or at least emotionally offset. the comment means more to her, than it does to me. But Death could ask me what shirt i like better and i'd call him homo, and tell him that unless it was covering his face, it dont matter because he'll still be ugly or something. And we would laugh about that. It'd be funny. no offense. No emotional offseting. The comment wouldn't be remembered after about 10 seconds. Us guys just are not as prone emotionally.

Do you understand what i'm trying to say? I know i'm not doing a good job of it, but does this make a bit of sense?

This post has been edited by D-Man: Aug 18, 2008 - 12:20 PM

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i got lost there,,,,
i mean cuz i never was an ass to her.....

yeah, that was a general Guys VS girls statement.

Bottom line, is that she may be saying things to humor you, and to spare your feelings. However actions speak louder than words, and if her body is mashing someone else's body, when you are their capable of mashing bodys with her, and she chooses someone else to mash with instead... Then it may be time to go find a new body to mash with. or date. However you wanna word that sentence....

That was not meant to be dirty But your earlier word selection of "Freaking" would have sounded insanely nasty.

bottom line: from the details that we've gotten thus far, it sounds like she's trying to get out; without hurting you. Unless you got other evidence/facts that says otherwise, it may be time for the next step. As crapy as it sounds, and as much of an ass i am for saying it...

so i shouldn't say anything!
just start looking for someone else?

Really, I'm the last person that you should listen to, Anything that i tell you will wind up saving you heart-break and pain; because i've had to learn myself the hardway. As we' all have on some level or another. Some of us just don't give up until we're living out of our cars or behind bars, (ect) and it's no way to live any part of your life, ever.

I'd say to play off that whole "Friends" crap, w/o hanging out with her. pass her calls when you can, or get loaded and talk to her about anything that's not related to ya'll. Like cars. Pullin that whole "friends" thing (so i've been advised) will make them bored and yern for more, or make them walk. Eitherway, it makes short work of the problem.

Okay, first of all, you should be asking a chick this, not a guy about this, because well, guys can only speculate.


Second of all, you went wrong in your first post when you said "let" as in "Should I let her" blah blah blah

So here's the rundown, from a girl's perspective, and probably one who knows women better than anyone else on this board for just Oh So Many Reasons
1) You don't "let" her do anything. She's not even your girlfriend so not only do you NOT get to say what she can and can't do, you also don't get to ask her nicely not to. She's going to do what she's going to do and the notion that you have the authority to either allow or disallow something is absolutely, well, laughable. I get that it's kind of a different deal with latin dudes than with plain old white guys (somewhat) but if you want to look at it from that perspective, well, she's not your wife. You don't get to say what she can and can't do.
2) She's your boss? That's a train wreck waiting to happen for you, my friend. Steer clear. If you like her that much, get a new job THEN ask her out. It's just a super bad idea to get involved with your boss. It's just not worth it, unless you enjoy an ass-load of drama and high maintenance sh*t in your life, in which case, have fun!

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you know, you brought a new point to the post,,,
i really dont get it why people say that a boss-worker relationship is full of drama,,
to tell you the truth we have been like this for one year, but she likes to dance a lot,
even though she doesnt goes out that much,,, once every 6 months,,,,
i would like to tell the whole story,, but it seems toooooo much,,,
i am sure you will be surprised of the story,,,,

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you know what, lots of friends have told me,,,
don't pay a lot of attention to girls,, the more you ignore them,
the more they look for you, i have tried it, and it really does work.

i'm going to say......this is a celica site......if you are asking for girl information on a car forum....well you are just looking in the wrong place

This post has been edited by playr158: Aug 18, 2008 - 1:00 PM